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Struggling with Singleness
Christian counseling for women in Chambersburg & throughout Pennsylvania
You want to be satisfied with your life. You want to be patient and trust God’s timing. But the loneliness gets the best of you sometimes.
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You want to embrace and enjoy this life you've been given but feel like you're missing out on so much by not being married or having children.
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If you're struggling with being single as a Christian woman, welcome. You're in the the right place.
How much longer must you wait?
You long for a husband and children but wonder if it will ever happen for you.
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You’ve been the bridesmaid and attended the baby showers. You’re happy for your friends but wonder when it will be your turn.
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You try to be positive and put yourself out there to date, only to be disappointed. Dating is mentally and emotionally exhausting, and you wonder how much more you can take.
Church is hard, because you no longer have a place to fit. You’re too old for the college kids, too young for the empty nesters, and the young marrieds is irrelevant. Any attempts to attend a “singles” event has been laughably awkward.
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It’s hard to stay connected with your married friends because they’re busy with their husband and kids.
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You try to go out and do things to be social, but coming to an empty house is sometimes harder than if you hadn’t gone out in the first place.
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The pain of loneliness and longing feels so deep and unbearable at times.
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You want to enjoy the life you have and be content, but you just can’t shake this feeling of emptiness that you want so desperately to be filled.
While you might feel overlooked and unchosen, I want you to know that you are chosen, loved, and valued by the very one who created you.
Jesus is waiting to sit & eat with you
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As someone who has spent most of my adult life as a single Christian woman, I understand this struggle.
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It’s hard to know where you fit when you don’t fit the “normal” categories. Even when churches try to find ways to reach out to singles, it just seems to fall flat. There doesn’t seem to be any great solutions to fill the loneliness in your heart.
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Except…
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In Revelation 3:20, Jesus says, “Look! I stand at the door and knock. If you hear my voice and open the door, I will come in, and we will share a meal together as friends.”
Just as you are waiting, hoping for someone to see you and want to spend their life with you, Jesus is standing there waiting with anticipation to spend time with you as your friend who knows you more intimately than any other human could.
Are you ready to invite Him in?
Imagine being able to use this time of singleness to deepen your relationship with Jesus.
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Imagine being content with where you are while prayerfully anticipating the future God has for you.
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You could truly experience Jesus as your companion and learn to know Him and trust Him more than ever before.
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What if you could navigate dating with clarity, discernment, and grace, and in a way that honors who you are in Christ?
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You could lean into where God has you in life in this moment, knowing that He is working things out for your good. You could find purpose and meaning in your life, rather than feeling like you’re waiting for your life to start.
How I can help
Jesus loves you immeasurably more than you can imagine. It can be hard to share all of your fears, doubts, and sadness with those close to you. I invite you to take time to be seen and heard as you share the struggle and longing that are taking up so much space in your heart.
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I invite you to lay your burdens down at the feet of Jesus as you open the door and invite Him in to sit and eat with you.
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I use a Christian-based Cognitive Behavioral model of counseling that helps reframe your thoughts, feelings, and reactions to align with the truth of God’s word. You will be able to develop the ability to embrace the present while living with an eternal mindset.
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The source of change is the Holy Spirit, and the ultimate goal is to become more like Jesus and live according to His will. This means placing our identity, purpose, desires, and strength in Him.
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Using knowledge and skills from biblical counseling methods, I help you find freedom from negative thoughts and emotions through approaching circumstances from a biblical perspective.
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Even though you’re seeking Christian counseling, I know that, for a variety of reasons, you might not feel ready to jump right into scripture or even prayer. You want to believe God’s promises, but you might be in a place where you’re angry with God or doubt His love for you. I will meet you where you are spiritually to gently lead you toward the truth of His word.
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We will work together in session as you learn and apply new skills to shift your thoughts and behaviors toward living aligned with your values, identity, and purpose as a Christian.
Between sessions, you will put these skills into practice.
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Working both in and between sessions will help you see results faster and enable you to experience long term results.
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I know you’re ready and willing to do what it takes, you just need the support and guidance to take the right steps forward. And I would love to help you do that.
You may wonder if counseling will even help if your circumstances don’t change.
Counseling will help you uncover negative thought patterns that lead to negative feelings and behaviors. As you identify these thoughts, you can start replacing them with the truth of God’s word.
You will then be able to develop feelings and reactions that align with what you know to be true about God and your identity in Christ.
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Even if your circumstances don’t change, it is possible to shift your focus so you are no longer weighed down by the heaviness you currently feel within your circumstances.
Maybe you’ve tried reading your Bible, praying, and spending more time with Jesus, but it hasn’t taken away the pain of the longing for a family of your own.
Counseling will provide you with the support, perspective, and skills that will help you break through some of the underlying thoughts and feelings that are keeping you stuck.
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As a Christian, you are not meant to suffer through your situation alone. Scripture calls it wise to get godly counsel to help you through life’s struggles.
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Even if you’ve tried other things, I invite you to give yourself the gift of individualized support that counseling provides.
If this sounds like just what you need, get started today by clicking the button to fill out a brief question and schedule your free consultation call.
If you know a Christian woman who is struggling with singleness and could benefit from counseling, please share this page with her, so she can start her journey toward wholeness and healing through the promises of God's word.